That's... unexpected

[piplover]

Wow. I have drama in my life. Of the romantic kind. Who would have thought? Oh, Flist, I need your advice, because I am so out of the game I am confused! [Poll #1420072]

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[nolan-ash.livejournal.com]

Boy 1 is a user. He wants all the benefits with none of the commitment. He will drop you whenever it isn't convenient for HIM.

Boy 2 is actually showing some respect and interest in YOU.

Totally agreed with this. I wouldn't project assumptions onto Boy 1 about his mood, though. His pissiness could have absolutely nothing to do with you or Boy 2--Maybe there's something else wrong in his life. So you earned a "maybe" from me in the drama queen department because you should really never assume why someone is acting the way they are. Unless he tells you that's why he's acting this way (or you ask), you really don't know.

That said, I think the "benefits" relationships are waaaaay too risky and volatile and Boy 1 sounds like a tool so you're better off without him. =P

Finally, I think it would be polite to secure a definite "yes" or "no" from Boy 1 if you invited him over first. If I invited a friend and only got a "maybe", I'd push that person for a final answer before accepting plans with a second party for the same day. At the very least, I'd leave a message with the first person saying, "I couldn't get a final answer from you, so I made other plans. How about we get together [Tuesday] instead?" Might be a bit of a social faux pas there.

[piplover.livejournal.com]

You are right, and I did assume things. Things got cleared up today, and I feel a little guilty now. There was a very good reason Boy 1 did not respond to my texts or phone, and even though I did try to contact him two days before Boy 2 and I went out, and the day of, he never got back to me. So I agree with you on that part, too. Wow, dating is hard work!