That's... unexpected

[piplover]

Wow. I have drama in my life. Of the romantic kind. Who would have thought? Oh, Flist, I need your advice, because I am so out of the game I am confused! [Poll #1420072]

Comments

[forcryinoutloud.livejournal.com]

As everyone else has already said, from the sounds of it, Boy 1 is only acting pissy because of the possibility that his benefits without strings might be cut off if Boy 2 were to enter the picture in a more serious manner. Even though you're still not sure about Boy 2, don't give up the chance of something with some permanence when Boy 1 has already told you he has no interest whatsoever in your relationship going beyond "benefits" stage. As the commentor above said, things become much more complicated once a friendship enters the whole with benefits thing. In the end, you have to decide what YOU want more. A friendship and sex with a man who has told you that is all he will ever want from you or possibly, friendship, sex and an actual relationship with the guy that is, from the sounds of it, trying to treat you with the respect, attention and caring that you deserve and, again, from the sounds of it, are not getting from Boy 1.

*huggles* Good luck with whatever you decide honey.

[piplover.livejournal.com]

*Hugs*

Thanks, sweety. Boy 2 was very respectful and sweet today, and we're going out again next week. I think that Boy 1 is just being pissy because he doesn't want to share, which is silly because he was the one who said he didn't want a relationship in the first place. I don't want to hurt him, but I'm not going to wait around for him, either.

[forcryinoutloud.livejournal.com]

*hugs* You're welcome!

I'm glad that things went well with Boy 2!! *G* And yeah, that's all it is, which is utterly selfish and totally ridiculous on his part. You deserve better. Maybe Boy 2 will be it. ;)