Breaking Heart

[piplover]

Can anyone offer any advice on how to deal with a breaking heart? My fiance, at least I think he is still my fiance, just sent me a very hasty email telling me that he's sorry for being a nuisance and hopes he didn't interfere with my life too much.
I love him with all my heart, but I don't know what to do. He wrote it because I pushed an issue that we have been debating for some time. I won't say anymore on that.
I just don't know what to do. My heart feels shattered, and I don't think I can keep going if he breaks up with me. I just hate this long distance! I hate that I can't be there for him when he needs me, because I know he is hurting and lonely and scared. I wish I were in Iraq right now so I could be at least on the same continent as him.
But for now, all I can do is write him back and ask him not to chuck our whole relationship. I just don't know what to do. I feel broken.

Comments

[shirebound]

I just hate this long distance! I hate that I can't be there for him when he needs me, because I know he is hurting and lonely and scared. I wish I were in Iraq right now so I could be at least on the same continent as him.

Can you tell him that? It's possible that he's overreacting to something, or is interpreting things differently than you are. Tell him that far from interfering with your life, to you, he IS your life, and that this relationship is worth fighting to save. Just keep the communication going so the two of you can get a handle on the other's thoughts and feelings.

*hugs you*

[piplover.livejournal.com]

*big hug back*
I wrote him and told him he would have to push me away kicking and screaming, but I am worried that he will simply delete my emails and throw away my snail mail. I hate feeling so powerless and like I'm groveling, but I just don't want to think of life without him.

[hiyacynth.livejournal.com]

Me, I applied a double dose of kitten when last it happened to me, but that's probably not an option for you. I, of course, know next to nothing about the situation, but he sounds frustrated--he's probably also fed up with the distance thing (as well as scared and lonely, which isn't a suprise, given his whereabouts) and not dealing with it as gracefully as would be ideal.

Sorry to be Little Miss Not So Useful, but I wanted to say something. Breaking/broken hearts are just the worst.

*sends Pip, with Hiyakittehs, for a good, soothing snuggle*

[piplover.livejournal.com]

*snuggles Hiyakittehs*
Thanks! I could use some snuggles right now.

[baylorsr.livejournal.com]

So sorry to hear this. I have no good advice, but whatever happens, know that you are special to many, many people. *hug*

[piplover.livejournal.com]

Thank you! *big hug* I just feel so weary right now I don't know what to make of anything.

[rabidsamfan.livejournal.com]

Just keep talking to him, by whatever means. He ought to get the hint sooner or later that you don't find him a nuisance. I wish I had better advice. You're right about how the distance isn't helping. Maybe someone who's with him will tell him the same thing.

[piplover.livejournal.com]

I hope so. I asked my other friend Adam, who is also over there, to give him a kick in the butt for me. If he listens to anyone, it would be Adam.

[elanor1013.livejournal.com]

I'm afraid I don't have any good advice. All I can give are *hugs*.

[piplover.livejournal.com]

That's a lot. Thank you!

[budgielover.livejournal.com]

I am just catching up, sweetie, and am so sorry that you are hurting. From the vantage of years, I can offer one piece of advice. You know him better than I do but I would say deluge him with emails and letters and reassurances. Men are so insecure. He most likely can't believe that a young, beautiful woman loves him, so you have to tell him that and tell him that and tell him that. After you have been married for thirty years, he might believe you.

[piplover.livejournal.com]

Thank you, Budgie. I needed to hear that. I have sent him two emails already, and am going to send him a snail mail tomorrow. Let us see if he can outstubborn me. I think you are right, though, and that he is just feeling insecure. At least, I hope so.
*BIG HUGS*

[ansostuff.livejournal.com]

I don`t really have much advice for you but

(((((((you)))))))

[angiet.livejournal.com]

Talk to him. then talk some more. Tell him how you feel. Tell him you love him.

and talk talk talk

[pippinswolf.livejournal.com]

((((what they said))))) (((((you)))))
And they're right, the distance isn't helping much- without you being right next to each other to offer support, it's a bit hard to get over these milestones half a world apart.

[melilot-hill.livejournal.com]

I can't really give you advice, but I can give you some hugs.

(((Piplover)))

[lil-banik-slave.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I hope it all works out for the best, which I'm sure it will. Stay strong

[auntiemeesh.livejournal.com]

{{{{Piplover}}}}

I wish I had some wise advice for you. All I can suggest is to write to him and remind him that you love him and no disagreement is going to change that. Also remember to be patient with him because he is in a very stressful situation so he may be saying something now that he doesn't really mean. He may just be feeling overwhelmed and needing a little extra support.

I hope you are able to work this out with him. *offers best wishes*

[luv2hobbits.livejournal.com]

*HUGS!!!*
Oh, I hope you feel better, have you tried just tellin him exactly that?
I really dunno what to say, since I've never really been in love.
*HUGS*